Restraint and Suspension Play

There are a variety of reasons why some people enjoy being restrained during sexual activities and restraint and suspension play is so popular.  For some, being restrained can create a feeling of vulnerability and relinquishing control, which can be sexually arousing. It can also increase the intensity of physical sensations.  Such as touch or pressure, and create a sense of anticipation or suspense.  Some people may enjoy the power dynamic that comes with being restrained or restraining their partner.

It can also be a way to explore BDSM dynamics and engage in role-playing scenarios.

Restraint and Suspension Play

RESTRAINT PLAY

When engaging in any form of restraint play here are the top 10 things you should consider.

1. Communication: Discuss your boundaries, expectations, and any concerns with your partner before engaging in any BDSM play. This includes discussing the type of restraints that will be used, the length of the session, and what safe words or signals will be used to communicate.
2. Consent: All BDSM activities should involve explicit and enthusiastic consent from all parties involved.
3. Safety equipment: Use appropriate safety equipment, such as soft restraints or handcuffs with safety releases, to prevent accidental injury.
4. Check restraints regularly: Regularly check the restraints to ensure they are not too tight or causing any pain or discomfort.
5. Position: Make sure the position you are restrained in is comfortable and does not restrict breathing or circulation.
6. Respect limits: Respect each other’s limits and boundaries, and never push someone to do something they are uncomfortable with.
7. Emergency plan: Have an emergency plan in place in case something goes wrong, such as a safe word or signal to stop the play or a way to quickly release the restraints.
8. Sober play: BDSM play should never be done under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
9. Aftercare: Aftercare is important to help both parties to feel safe, supported, and cared for after a BDSM session. This can include cuddling, talking, or taking a break to relax.
10. Education: Educate yourself and your partner on safe BDSM practices, including the use of safe words, negotiation, and consent.

SUSPENSION PLAY

Suspension play is an advanced form of BDSM. It involves suspending a person in the air using ropes, harnesses, or other devices. Suspension play should only be attempted by experienced individuals who have received proper training and education in rope bondage and suspension techniques.

Here are 10 techniques for suspension play

1. Safety first.  Always prioritize safety when engaging in suspension play. Ensure that all equipment is in good condition.  That the suspension point is secure and strong enough to hold the weight of the person. And that there is a safety plan in place in case of an emergency.
2. Know your partner.  Get to know your partner’s physical and mental limitations before attempting any suspension play. Be aware of any medical conditions, previous injuries, or mental health concerns that may affect their ability to engage in the activity.
3. Use quality equipment.  Invest in high-quality ropes, carabiners, and harnesses specifically designed for suspension play.
4. Proper preparation.  Warm up the body with stretching and light exercise before suspending. Ensure the person is comfortable and relaxed before beginning.
5. Effective rigging.  Learn effective rigging techniques that distribute weight evenly across the body and avoid putting pressure on sensitive areas such as the neck, joints, and nerves..
6. Communication:Establish clear communication between partners to ensure that the person being suspended can indicate any discomfort, pain, or other issues during the play.
7. Gradual progression. Gradually increase the intensity and duration of suspension play over time. Avoid sudden or extreme movements that could cause injury or discomfort.
8. Adjust for comfort. Ropes or harness to be adjusted as needed to ensure that the person being suspended is comfortable and not in pain.
9. Plan for landing. A safe and controlled landing when lowering the person back down to the ground. Have a soft surface such as a crash mat or cushion to land on.
10. Aftercare.  Essential after suspension play. Provide emotional support, rehydrate, and allow time for the body to recover before engaging in any further activities.

Shibari Vs Restraint Play

Shibari is a form of Japanese rope bondage that involves intricate patterns and designs being created with ropes around a person’s body.  A focus of shibari is often on the aesthetic qualities of the rope work and the process of tying. Rather than just the act of restraining the person. Shibari can be used for restraint purposes. But it is also considered a form of art and expression.

On the other hand, restraint play is a more general term that encompasses a wide range of BDSM activities that involve restraining a person in some way. This can include using ropes, handcuffs, chains, or other devices to physically restrict the person’s movement. Focus of restraint play is primarily on the act of restraining the person. And the power dynamic that it creates between the people involved.

While both shibari and restraint play involve using ropes or other restraints, shibari tends to be more focused on the aesthetic qualities of the rope work.  While restraint play is more focused on the act of restraining the person.  There can be overlap between the two, and some people may incorporate elements of shibari into their restraint play, or vice versa.