Welcome to our guide to all things kink and BDSM.
What Is Kink And Bondage?
Let’s be honest with ourselves kink and bdsm have become more popular since Fifty Shades of Grey exploded across our bookshelves and was splashed out on the big screen. Sex has been quietly undergoing a sex positive revolution. Slowly, we’re shifting outside of the idea that sex is about banging away twelve point six minutes when the kids are asleep and you have a moment to yourselves.
Contrary to what has been taught to us for all these years. And contrary to what our parents told us when they said that amount of times that they’ve had sex directly correlates to the amount of children that they have. Gone are these days.
We have finally admitted that we have sex for pleasure.
And when we do that, we slowly come around to the idea that not all sex needs to involve penetration and that we have sex because it feels good. That’s where kink and bondage come in. It’s all the rage now. People are using blindfolds, hand cuffs sales have gone through the roof. There was a period of time during the release of the Fifty Shades trilogy that there was a global shortage on Ben-Wa / Geisha Balls.
Everyone is talking about kink, the things they did over the weekend, the things they tried and this is an amazing time to be in.
We are beginning to discuss sex and pleasure so openly with each other, but that we are trying new things because it feels good. Not because we have to, but because we enjoy it and it feels great. So with recent statistics and research indicating that 50 percent of Americans have enjoyed some kind of rough or kinky sex. 36 percent of participants indicating that they’re used blindfolds and bondage.
Lets Talk About Kink and BDSM
So let’s talk about kink and BDSM and what it could mean for you, if you’re not already spicing it up behind closed doors.
This website is an inclusive guide to kink and bondage play, and all sorts of fetish and bondage gear. We can’t cover everything in this as kink and bondage is just so broad. So it’s not your one stop guide to everything kink and bondage. But it should be one of the first places that you visit to gain an understanding of BDSM, and kink play.
Let’s get the nitty gritty stuff out of the way first. Kink and BDSM is not new. It’s been around, arguably, for as long as we have been having sex. Rough sex, kinky sex, is primal. It’s something that for a long time was snuffed behind closed doors as a result of religious practices. And as social views turned towards sex as being perverse or solely as a means of reproduction. There has been an underground society and community of fetish and kink play under your nose for an exceptionally long time.
As we slowly shift into a sex positive society, as sex is plastered all over popular culture and the media, we start to see our perspective on sex slowly shift.
Normal Sex Was Vanilla
Before the internet, the accessibility of pornography and such, there were many people that thought that ‘normal’ sex was vanilla. A standard love making missionary style of sex and foreplay. Then, as the underground community was slowly revealed, we’ve been faced with the truth.
As we have faced this new community, people that normally repressed such fantasies, or had desires they thought as being a little out there have suddenly had an outlet to bring it up, and ultimately explore it. Today, when it comes to sex and sexualiy, we are far more open and honest with each other. We are beginning to learn that most of our fantasies and fetishes are actually quite common.
Now, we are in a position where we find fascination and curiosity in kink activities which had previously been considered as taboo, immoral, and wrong.
Now with the click of a button, or the loading of a dating app we can instantly connect with like minded people. We can be in the position to reach out to others that have the same desires and then we can form communities around these desires.
Places like FetLife, Recon, KNKI, Whiplr etc form communities based around the element of kink. Fetlife in particular doesn’t just focus on dating or sex. It forms a community where people can discuss kinks, they can discuss situations and they learn and grow from each other as a community.
So, the internet therefore, in combination with popular media, has been instrumental in breaking down the idea of kink and taboo desires and fantasies. Instead, transforming them to sex positive ideas and forming a community around them.
No longer are people with different ideas of sex and pleasure alone, they can reach out to likeminded people with the simple click of a button.